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What Women Want: The single man's dating guide.
How to find a woman.
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The first thing that you are looking for is a return eye contact from the woman lasting slightly longer than usual. You will soon learn the difference in timing between the women who disconnect instantly and those who hold eye contact longer than normal. Research has measured this timing difference in milliseconds (thousandths of a second) but men's brains can detect this difference because it is highly developed DNA programming. Here are the rules for the rest of this "eye contact aggression":
Remember: Her slightly longer eye contact, plus her looking DOWN while you look at her, means she will accept you approaching her. She will not resist or hurt you. She will be waiting for you to approach her. This signal is in her DNA from all ancestors who mated successfully using it. It worked for them and it will probably work for you!
Remember guys: Stay away from the women who break eye contact with you by quickly looking away to their left or right! Also, only do this eye-contact "test" a couple of times an evening on each of the women who weren't too negative the first time. Forget those who quickly looked away left or right!
Also be realistic in your expectations. If you do not find any "down-lookers", there may not be any woman there who wants or needs a man for the time being.
As you walk toward her, she will be observing your body language and forming an opinion about you in only seconds! Most women watch the body language and face of every man approaching them to determine if the man is dangerous. This ability to read men is in women's DNA and is a valuable instinct for survival. This habit comes from women's ancestors and a million years of experience around males!
If you approach her with a smile and self-confident relaxed walk, it is the body language signal that reassures her that you are not dangerous. Your body language is very revealing to her about what kind of male you are. Women and many animals can read body language very well even from a distance, so the way you approach her is important.
If you need to, practice your walk with a mirror until you can do it with something balanced on your head. The trick is to minimize the movement of every body part not necessary for walking, and to be standing as tall and straight as possible. Excess movements of head, arms, or pelvis and butt reveals nervousness. Slouching over indicates trying to hide and a need for protection. If you approach her with your walk perfected, her hormones will kick in by the time you get to her because it is part of her DNA programming!
Also try to keep your chest out and breathing relaxed. (That is hard to do and to keep your gut sucked in at the same time!) This will help your voice to be low. A high voice indicates nervousness and fear. A low voice indicates lots of testosterone, and that will unconsciously trigger off nice tingles in her.
During the data gathering step, which may take any length of time from hours to months, the two of you will move physically and emotionally closer. How this progresses is best left for the woman to establish. She will provide all the body language signals you need to understand how close you may get both emotionally and physically. Always remember that in a woman's DNA there is a strong need for a quality relationship before her other needs are satisfied -- such as sex.
You probably already know most of the negative "do-not-get-close" cues such as crossed arms and legs, leaning back in the chair, and body turned away from you. However, if you don't push into her personal space, and she accepts you and wants you to get closer both physically and emotionally, she will let you know by a powerful body language cue. Here is how this "you-can-get-closer" cue works. Watch for it!
When she wants you to know that she desires you to come physically and emotionally closer to her, she will TOUCH YOU. It will appear to happen very casually or even accidentally. Her touch will always be on your arm or back, as these are the least sexual places on the body. It will be a pat or soft momentary touch for only a few seconds and then she will pull back and carry on the conversation as if nothing is different. However, something BIG is happening!
She is now waiting for you to touch her back EXACTLY LIKE SHE TOUCHED YOU. Same pressure. Same length of time. Same casual way. And you should do that return touch in the next minute or two after hers. If you wait too long it says to her that you are not going to accept her invitation to get closer -- or that you are too dense to read her body language cues.
If you do your part correctly by "casually" returning her touch with the same type of touch, that sends her a very powerful signal that you are willing to meet her on her terms. She is looking for a guy who is not going to control her and run all over her, and your return touch will tell her what type of guy you are. Some guys wrongly take her touch signal as meaning that her doors are wide open now and they can climb all over her body with their hands. That is a very wrong and stupid thing to do because she will instantly close her personal space forever to the guy for being unpredictable, overpowering, and unsafe.
After the first touches are exchanged, watch for more of her touching signals and return them similarly. When she feels safe with you she will be all over you and let you discover all her nice places where she really likes to be touched!
Here is Fact 6 about women:
Women seek an aggressive male who has good control of resources and who can take good care of himself and his family in the future.
A man who approaches a woman and talks to her in the local culturally acceptable way is demonstrating modern male aggressiveness. In most western countries, and in certain places, it is one of the most common ways of meeting new women. This action done confidently and politely is a display of acceptable male aggressiveness. Signs of personal power, confidence, and wealth are an additional big "turn-on" during this modern aggressive display!
Guys, you have approximately one minute to do your "aggressive male display". This is the first impression you will make on this new woman in your life. How well you do your "aggressive mating dance" will probably determine how far she will let you come into her life - and her bed.
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