How the Mating Game Really Works

Why men must do dating and courting.

Why Men Must Date Women

• Men today usually seek a woman by dating. This lets her know that he is interested in her as a possible mate or a sexual partner in just a temporary relationship. The mate-seeking process varies by culture and religion, and has traditional rules for mating that may or may not be written down.

  In most western cultures, dating is done in ways that demonstrates a man's best characteristics so the woman will accept him closer emotionally and physically. The dating man's plan is to appeal most positively to his selected woman so she will invite him closer for lots of touching and you-know-what. In order for him to build up his attractiveness and appeal in her, he has to take his time and let her see his many good characteristics. The guy's main problem is figuring out what she wants in order to let him get closer! The woman makes the ultimate decision to let him get closer, and maybe even let him do that really good-feeling stuff with her.

• Dating and courting allows the woman time to evaluate each man so she can select the best one.

  During serious courting, a woman is unconsciously watching for signs of how good of a protector and provider the man is, and if he will stick around to take care of her and the offspring after the initial fun is over.

  Courtship involves numerous subtle behaviors, and many are nonverbal body language cues. Women are much better at reading these cues than men. During courting, the man should demonstrate being attentive, protecting, stimulating, calming, and focusing on her to indicate great care for her. Every woman needs reassurance that the man is not going to just use her for his own pleasure then abandon her.

Fact 2: The unwritten rules for the mating game in most western cultures are these:

• Men must court women.

  A man must do the dating and courting of a woman to get emotionally and physically close to her. If a man does his courting well, he may be able to get his desired woman in a relationship -- and get what he wants from her. She makes the final decision to let him in or not to her life and bed.

• Women select the best man available.

  Dating and courting gives a woman the opportunity and time to evaluate the men. The woman normally has the chance to select the best one who will help insure the survival of her and her offspring in the future.

  Only in the past few hundred years have the concepts of "love" and "fidelity" become part of the process of making babies. We really are not very advanced in these "love" and "fidelity" concepts, and they vary widely throughout the various cultures in the world. Local rules apply!

Click here for Fact #3:
What women want in a man.

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