What women want in a man.

Men and women want different things from each other.

Based on the way our ancestors succeeded in mating for millions of years, this is what remains in women's and men's DNA today:

• Women want a guy who will stick around and help raise the children.

  What a woman looks for, at her deepest DNA level, is a man who is most able and willing to help take care of her and the offspring over the long term, and in the best way possible. This is true even for the woman not even consciously thinking about marrying and raising kids. It even exists in post menopausal women. This drive is all unconscious and in women's DNA.

  Women's DNA programming looks for protection, a sound relationship, and long term commitment before turning on the passion hormones. This scheme is what worked best for women's ancestors to make babies, and it is still strongly embedded in their DNA today. The most effective way for a guy to get to a woman's heart (and her bed) is by establishing a long term relationship.

  Nature has also built into women a natural means of helping her select the man who sticks around. Women are only fertile approximately 24 hours a month. The guy who is there knocking on her door regularly has the best chance of making her pregnant. Incidentally, men's sperm are pretty smart: they will lay and wait for her egg for up to 72 hours!

• Men's interest in women is primarily for frequent sex.

  Men's DNA programming is for frequent sex with any willing healthy female, and with no commitments or problems. That is what worked best in millions of men's male ancestors. (Lots of that attitude still showing up in today's men.)

  Healthy young men make hundreds of millions of sperm a day! Every one of those little "wigglies" has a strong drive to get to any female egg it can find. So men are not very particular about whose bones they jump on! That is what worked for men's ancestors and the drive is still there in men's DNA today. (Guys, don't worry about exploding -- although it feels that you will! Your body absorbs all the excess old "wigglies" that you can't give away.)

Fact 3:
Women want a strong and healthy man who will stick around in a long term relationship and help protect and raise the children.

As pointed out earlier in this site, these bodies we are in were designed approximately 30,000 years ago. Our hardware (bodies) and software (unconscious drives) are still operating primarily in a survival and breed mode. Our individual cultures and families where we are raised teaches us to operate in a more civilized way. However, those ancient drives for mating are very strong. The local rules in our society normally dictate how we should go about finding a mate and raising children. There is much evidence that some people are not following the rules.

Women's historical role:
Dating and mating is our game.
Making babies is our aim. (Biological purpose.)

Click here for Fact #4:
How to make her want YOU!

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